34 dating 19 year old
_________________What has been will be again, what has been done will be done again; there is nothing new under the sun. We love water and green trees, there is nothing in the desert. Something about the gap just doesn't compute in my brain, something is just "off" about it.I think it'd bother me less if it was say a 22 year old and a 32 year old.I'm curious to see what others think: if you had friends in this type of relationship, would you think "She's a BABY! My parents had an 18 year age difference (she was 16 and he was 34 when they married [and he was her high-school teacher]- this was rural Alabama in the early 1950s when that wasn't so scandalous) and the marriage lasted for 30 years. (It wasn't a happy union, it's just that its unhappiness got tenure.) How much of my parents' unhappiness was based in the age difference I don't know, but I can't shake the feeling that when a guy goes after a gal half-his-age, however else he may justify it the lust for firm young flesh is high on the list of REAL motivations (not to say that he can't be intellectually attracted as well). Maybe you would do well to adopt my motto: I don't care WHAT you do, as long as you don't do it to me. at a small Liberal Arts College in New England, I'll say this. On the other hand, this does seem a bit icky to me. Before I started dating men twenty years older than me, I dated men the same age as myself, and one much younger.
I'm not going to say anything to him or her about it because it's none of my business, but it majorly bothers me (two levels: he's still a professor and she's still a student even if the college doesn't have a dating ban [unless students are in the professor's class] and the fact that she's by some definitions a minor and he's closing in on middle age]). I have a co-worker with whom I'm work chums (we're not bosom buddies but we like each other at work- I'm sure you've had one).He ended a long-term relationship last year (non live-in) and I was glad when he said he'd met someone who really "did it for him"- bright, vivacious, intellectual and, I just learned when I met her- 19 years old. (He's technically a professor but he's non-teaching, so she's not ever going to be in any of his classes, so that's not an issue.) Hmmm...For me, and many other women like me, it all begins with a number. Before agreeing to a set-up, as a follow-up response or even playing a flirtatious game, I always find the answer to the question, “So, how old are you? And if you don't know who the Seavers are from “Growing Pains,” then you don't stand a chance.As much of our generation is delaying activities like marriage and procreating, we are, in effect, also prolonging its adolescence.